10 ways to dial down stress

Elderly woman gardening in backyard with daughter

You don't have to carry the weight of the world

Whether you are just helping out,  if you live with a relative with dementia or other physical or mental disabilities, or you’re the primary emotional and financial resource for a loved one in assisted living or a nursing home, being a caregiver can be one of the most rewarding jobs there is. But it can also be one of the most stressful and exhausting.

Research bears that out: People who care for an older family member or friend have higher levels of stress, anxiety and depression. They're twice as likely to have heart disease, cancer, diabetes and arthritis. Caregivers have higher rates of acid reflux, headaches and pain, and they're more likely to develop serious illnesses themselves.

“It’s so important to take care of yourself and to recognize when stress becomes overwhelming, which can lead to caregiver burnout,” says Amy Goyer, author of Juggling Life, Work, and Caregiving. Here are 10 ways to do it, starting today.

1. Schedule regular breaks.

A must-do for any full-time caregiver is taking regularly scheduled time off.  It might be a couple of hours a week to sit in the coffee shop and read magazines while your mom does crafts the senior center. Or maybe it's a week-long, rejuvenating vacation once a year. It's necessary.

“Some people say, 'No I can’t leave my mom, she’ll get so upset,'” says Molly Fogel, LCSW, director of educational and social services for the Alzheimer’s Foundation of America. “But you have to allow yourself time off, and understand that she will be just fine.”

If you don’t have a relative, friend, or hired aide to step in while you’re gone, explore respite care options or check in with your Area Agency on Aging to learn about programs you could take advantage of.

There on some online tools that can help you stay organized.

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Community

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Two popular areas of need for caregivers:

Chore Services
Caregiver Support